Last Updated on: January 7th, 2021
There is no doubt about it: I LOVE blogging. And writing. Reading, too. And basically anything that involves words, including doing crosswords and playing Scrabble. But I really, really love blogging.
In fact, I prefer it to writing my book because of the emotional pain I avoid. This is my biggest roadblock to writing. It’s not that I can’t write (I totally can!) but that I’ve been choosing not to.
I’m specifically alluding to my memoir book (still untitled) that I’ve started but have been ignoring for the past while; a few months, actually. I’m almost at the point where I don’t think I’ll ever finish it. It’s currently at about 15 000 words. How can I finish it when I don’t put forth the effort?
Now, for all you writers out there, this may seem like an old familiar story. For me, it’s usually not; I generally like to get things done. (Well, most of the time, I do.)
When it comes to writing lengthy pieces, we often feel like we’re facing a brick wall. Yet bloggers crank out thousands of words on a weekly basis. So why aren’t we writing and publishing books? Especially in today’s new self-publishing age?
I have a few answers:
- we cannot train our minds to focus on the bigger picture
- we cannot wrap our minds around the concept of “I can write 90 000 words.”
- we cannot wrap our minds around the concept of “I can write 30 000 words.”
- we are writing about things that are painful to write about
- we have a shorter attention span (which makes blogging the preference to writing)
- we don’t know how to plan a book
- we lack the motivation to see the project through
- we push the project aside when we come across a “roadblock” (whether it be a technical one, like creating a cover or some formatting issue, or suffering from painful memories)
- we are scared of success
- our self-expectations are too high
- we give up on ourselves easily when we experience minor failures
- we don’t know how to cope with unexpected emotions when writing painful memoirs (This is a link to a guest post I wrote and just had published today, and I’d love for you to check it out!)
I’m sure you can think of other things to add to this list, but these 9 reasons are the most common.
So what are we to do?
Well, we can:
- learn how to plan a book, from beginning to end
- take writing courses
- make a long-term plan and stick with it
- learn how to re-train our ways of thinking
- force ourselves to work on it, whether we want to or not
- learn how to focus on the bigger picture
- find an accountability partner to help us
- join writing groups in LinkedIn and/or on other social media where we can learn from one another
- follow blogs such as Indies Unlimited to help us with our “roadblocks” (I”m linking to this post specifically since yours truly was the inspiration for it! Yes, I was the reader who asked the question.)
- learn about the industry (like I have been doing the past year)
- become friends with an author who can help you with some of your roadblocks
- read and learn and keep searching Google for the answer
Books, Blogs, and Roadblock-Blocking
Blogging allows us to write short pieces of work. If your blog posts are like mine, they contain a lot of text. That’s because I love writing. (Duh!)
Blogging also offers a more immediate satisfaction. We publish and as soon as the comments start rolling in, we are validated. Writing a book does not allow us this. Our book-writing journey is undertaken often alone, and takes much more time.
In a world where satisfying our ids often take precedence over satisfying our egos and super-egos, blogging is the answer. It’s also less painful than pouring your heart and soul into a book that may never be published – or finished.
What are some of the roadblocks that you’ve encountered? How do you deal with them?
Do you prefer blogging to working on your book? Why or why not?
Please share in the comment section – and forgive me for publishing today instead of yesterday. With the excitement of my first year blogoversary going on this week and the publication of Coping With Unexpected Emotions When Writing Painful Memoirs happening today, I figured it was best to wait the extra day. Stop by and learn a few more things about my sordid past – if you dare.
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