Last Updated on: July 15th, 2017
On May 17, 2014, my beloved son was in a motor vehicle accident.
The picture of the crashed vehicle (above) was the one my son was driving when he was hit by someone going through a red light. I think it was taken by Randi-Lynn Manduca, but am not entirely sure. (I don’t know why there is a line through this link; perhaps it because it links Facebook page?)
I learned about the accident the day after it happened, on May 18, 2014, and my son said that I could find some pics on this person’s Facebook page. Naturally, as a mom, I cried when I saw the photos but am happy my son lived through it and is still alive.
The truck that hit him is rumoured to be driven by a young man (age 20 or thereabouts) who had just broken up with his girlfriend, was upset, tried to involve her and her mom in a car accident but failed to, and so sped away from her house, accelerating and running a red light as my son happened to be going through a green light on the other street. (Yeah, my lucky, lucky son…)
The truck flipped and rolled, coming to a stop in someone’s front yard. He apparently went to the hospital but is also being charged.
The Psychological Effects
Since the accident – which was reported as a scary crash on our local news site – son has been terrified to drive. He no longer owns his own vehicle (he got rid of his last year), but driving was part of the job he had. I say “had” because two days after the accident, he actually quit his job. He’s still anxious when in a vehicle. He also gets freaked out when riding his bike. Intersections scare him, and I don’t blame him one bit!
Pictures of the Accident
Here are some more pics of the accident, also taken from the aforementioned person’s Facebook page:
I posted this on Google+
After the accident, I posted this on Google+, but I was brief. It was simply too soon to blog about it. I had to cope with a few things first!
A Different but Similar Accident
I know how my son feels, too, because I was in a similar accident about four years ago. I was in a taxi, going through a green light, when it was hit by someone going through an intersection.
The person who hit the cab was travelling the wrong way on a one-way street, so of course she didn’t see a stop sign or even a traffic light because it was a one-way street.
The air bags saved the driver and me from severe injuries. The other car spun around a couple of times, but didn’t flip like the truck that hit my son did. I think it was because it was not going as fast.
Each time I passed that particular intersection again, I would start to get anxious when I was about three block away from it, and my anxiety would not abate until I had passed safely through it.
While I can say that I’m not as anxious now, I can still remember how quickly the accident happened – the car appeared from out of nowhere – and how I felt afterwards.
I was in other accidents, too. I nearly lost my leg in one of them!
Dealing With the Emotional Aftermath
Dealing with the emotional aftermath of the accident my son was in has brought us closer than we were before. Plus, it has made him appreciate his life even more than he did prior to it. Fortunately, his physical injuries were not life-threatening and he suffered what can only be described as “minor’ injuries, including soft tissue damage. His back is still sore to this day, and it is unknown at the moment what kind of long-term damage has been done. The psychological damage, however, remains.
Over to You
Have you ever been in a car accident? How did you cope with it? Are you scarred psychologically?
Please share your thoughts and experiences. Perhaps I might learn a thing or two from your stories.